Impotence and premature ejaculation: Ten tips for saving marriage, 'Satisfying' your wife in the bed and misconceptions about sexual performance

Lack of qualified sexologists in India and Pakistan is one of the biggest health issues in the sub-continent. Owing to less contact between opposite sexes prior to marriage and the taboos surrounding sex, the issues get even more complicated.

As a result, even minor ailments are considered as 'Gupt Rog' or 'Khufia Jinsi Marz' that seem to have no solution. In earlier posts we posted herbal and natural ways to improve your sexual performance in the posts under 'Impotence', 'Sexual weakness' and 'Premature ejaculation'. Click here

Today we take you further. 

1. Don't ever think that premature ejaculation is too serious an issue. It affects most males. What makes it worse is when you feel that you are ill. The psychological 'defeat' turns a person into a 'loser', and he completely gets into depression. This further affects sexual performance.

2. Don't consider sex as a battle where you have to 'satisfy' the (apparently insatiable) woman. Seeing pornographic movies or blue films, youth often get impression that one has to continue intercourse for long, which is absurd.

3. Marriage is about love, and of course,sex. But it is not that she is a sex-kitten and you are supposed to be a stud, who has to do all sorts of bizarre acrobatics which you heard about from friends or read in magazines or (kama sutra positions).

4. A person may not come soon while masturbating, but it is possible that he discharges as soon as he comes in contact with the woman. (Isn't a skin just a skin?) Reason! It is sexual tension, the psychological pressure to perform and getting over excited. 

5. Try to understand each others' bodies. There is no need to rush into things. Once you are comfortable with nudity and see each other quite naked, be in the partner's arms for long, you will steadily gain control and won't feel so excited. 

6. 'Squeeze' technique to press penis glans (for delaying ejaculation) could be used though all people aren't able to master it. If it helps you, go ahead, else don't put in extra effort. [Stop and Squeeze technique is well-known and could be found on internet easily]

7. If getting you wife orgasm is the ultimate criterion for you to 'win' this battle, this can be accomplished without using your organ. You can do it with your hand or even better with your mouth. She would probably love it, more. 

8. Clitoral stimulation generally gets women aroused more and brings them to orgasm than penetration. This doesn't need any penile contact, as clitoris is located outside the vagina.

9. There are other ways also if you insist on vaginal intercourse longer. You can use creams that desensitize penis, and thus increase the 'time period' (as commonly referred to in India, Pakistan). You may be able to hold ejaculation for more time. 

10. Training your mind to think about something that shocks you, makes you sad, or something holy, may do the trick when you are about to discharge. Else you can pinch yourself really hard anywhere in the body, and this will decrease your excitation level.

There are many other tricks and tips to keep your wife happy in the bed. In India, the 'Suhag Raat' or 'Shab-e-Uroosi' has been glamorised in such a manner through cheap Bollywood Hindi movies that it puts undue pressure on young couples.

Neither your wife is a ringmaster, nor you a 'circus tiger' who has to perform his best in the ring. Just be your natural self. Think yourself as adequately endowed. Have a feeling that its lovemaking, not about scoring, winning or losing. 

Things will definitely improve. But one last advice. If there is a real issue, go and consult a proper 'sexologist'. If you don't have one in your city, go to a qualified doctor--your family doctor or a good medical practitioner. But never go to the self-styled 'Gupt Rog Chikitsak' who offer 'Jinsi Amraz ka Ilaaj' or 'Mardana Kamzori' treatments using the 'Powerful capsules' advertised in newspapers.

All earlier posts on similar ailments and diseases can be read: Click here

How to cure impotence and erectile dysfunction?

In the past we have posted tips and natural ways to cure impotence. Now a few basic things which you need to know if you are suffering from impotence or weak erection.

If you have been living a sedentary life, ensure that you take a walk for at least 30minutes before dinner. Drink water, avoid alcohol and cut down on your smoking, as they have a negative impact in this situation.

Especially, you must not do excessive worrying over it, as tension and mental fatigue are a prime cause of sexual weakness. Improving your lifestyle is absolutely necessary for a change in the situation and you must Now a few natural and herbal remedies for treatment:

*Chew five bulbs of garlic in the morning and drink milk soon after. Keep this routine for the entire winter season.

*Take a mixture of onion juice and honey on a regular basis.

*Pistachio nuts and pomegranates will help you in regaining your vigour and activating sexual system.

Earlier posts on related subjects include:
1. Nightfall, nocturnal emissions [swapna dosh]
2. Impotence, Sexual weakness and Jiryan
3. Ginger for sexual weakness
4. Premature ejaculation [Surat-e-Inzal] (Urdu, Hindi)
5. Male impotence [Namardi] (Urdu, Hindi)
6. Thin watery semen [veerya or mani ka patlapan]

Ginger: Natural cure for treatment of sexual weakness

The juice of ginger is considered an excellent remedy for sexual weakness.

It is advisable to take it with a half-boiled egg and honey, every day in the night for at least a month. It will help in strengthening the sexual system and cure premature ejaculation, impotence and spermatorrhoea [spermatatorrhea].

One needs to have mental strength and self-confidence for better results. Positive attitude is a must and one should avoid getting tensed over poor sexual performance. Rather, some exercise and a 30 minute walk every day would help you in overcoming the sexual debility.

In India, Ginger is also known as Adrak [Hindustani-Urdu term]. In the past also we have discussed other natural herbs and vegetables that are helpful in treating male impotence ie naamardi, dhatu/dhaatu rog or jiryan.

How to improve quality of semen: Use natural supplements like dates and pine fruit

Chilghoza or Pine Fruit is a nut that thickens semen

Impotence, Thin (watery) semen: How to thicken the fluid by natural ways?


It's an age-old issue but lack of information among youths make it seem like an incurable disease.


The reality is that herbal and natural supplements can be eaten to thicken your seminal discharge.


Rather than running after street quacks or non-qualified doctors, this issue can be solved through visit to a proper physician.


Else, there are natural ways, which we are telling you. A few tips:

*Those suffering from impotence or having thin semen should eat dry dates regularly. The dry dates (or chhuara) should be soaked in milk and then eaten regularly. It will bring an immense change.

* Chilgoza Pine has wonderful properties for male sexual system. Eat 10-15 Chilghoza pines each day.

*Black gram dal (Urad dal) soaked in water for about six hours and then fried in pure cow's 'ghee' after draining the water is a wonderful sex tonic. This should be used with wheat bread and honey for highly beneficial results in functional impotency, thinness of semen and also premature ejaculation.

In the past also Nature's Cures has written about home remedies and natural cures for Impotence at the post

CLICK HERE.

Male Impotence (Impotency): Treatment and cure of Sexual Weakness*

Don't trust roadside Quacks to become He Man

Impotence can be caused due to several reasons. It has psychological, physical and mental causes. General debility, excessive liquor consumption, drugs, constipation, diabetes, smoking, addiction to alcohol are some of the reasons for impotence in men.

The herbal, ayurveda, unani and traditional ways to restore sexual vigour and vitality are as follows:
(Stop smoking altogether if suffering from impotence)

1. Juice of white onion, honey, ginger juice, desi ghi--each 6 gm--should be mixed and taken daily for a month.

2. Pine (Chilghoza) should be eaten regularly. Take 10-15 daily. It will work wonders. Else, carrot juice (Urdu: Gajar) should be taken daily. Carrot is an excellent remedy.

3. Dry dates (chhuara) keeps a check on premature ejaculation. It cures impotence. Should be taken along with milk. Besides, coconut is excellent cure for weaknessac. Also, pistachio (Pista) is good and should be taken regularly.

4. Another remedy is Garlic. Fry 50 grammes garlic (Urdu/Hindi: Lahsun) in desi ghee (ghi) and eat daily. It will cure impotence and sexual weakness. For one month it should be regularly taken.

Some other tips and treatments for impotence

1. Take ripe anjeer fruit (fig) daily before breakfast.

2. The seeds of Kala Dhatoora should be dried indoors. Then grind them and mix with honey. Make small globules of the size of Urad daal (pulse). Take a small tablet both in morning and evening with milk.

3. Take Camphor (Kapoor/Kafur) and mix it with Gulaab Itr (attar). One hour before intercourse apply it on the penis. This will prolong intercourse. (Aromatherpay-Ayurveda)

Important::

Read Ten Tips to Save Marriage, Satisfy your wife and enjoy marital life at this LINK

*Napunsakta in Hindi
Zauf-e-baah in Urdu/Arabic
Gupt Rog [Yaun Rog] is a word used in India for ailments that affect sexual health.