Impotence and premature ejaculation: Ten tips for saving marriage, 'Satisfying' your wife in the bed and misconceptions about sexual performance

Lack of qualified sexologists in India and Pakistan is one of the biggest health issues in the sub-continent. Owing to less contact between opposite sexes prior to marriage and the taboos surrounding sex, the issues get even more complicated.

As a result, even minor ailments are considered as 'Gupt Rog' or 'Khufia Jinsi Marz' that seem to have no solution. In earlier posts we posted herbal and natural ways to improve your sexual performance in the posts under 'Impotence', 'Sexual weakness' and 'Premature ejaculation'. Click here

Today we take you further. 

1. Don't ever think that premature ejaculation is too serious an issue. It affects most males. What makes it worse is when you feel that you are ill. The psychological 'defeat' turns a person into a 'loser', and he completely gets into depression. This further affects sexual performance.

2. Don't consider sex as a battle where you have to 'satisfy' the (apparently insatiable) woman. Seeing pornographic movies or blue films, youth often get impression that one has to continue intercourse for long, which is absurd.

3. Marriage is about love, and of course,sex. But it is not that she is a sex-kitten and you are supposed to be a stud, who has to do all sorts of bizarre acrobatics which you heard about from friends or read in magazines or (kama sutra positions).

4. A person may not come soon while masturbating, but it is possible that he discharges as soon as he comes in contact with the woman. (Isn't a skin just a skin?) Reason! It is sexual tension, the psychological pressure to perform and getting over excited. 

5. Try to understand each others' bodies. There is no need to rush into things. Once you are comfortable with nudity and see each other quite naked, be in the partner's arms for long, you will steadily gain control and won't feel so excited. 

6. 'Squeeze' technique to press penis glans (for delaying ejaculation) could be used though all people aren't able to master it. If it helps you, go ahead, else don't put in extra effort. [Stop and Squeeze technique is well-known and could be found on internet easily]

7. If getting you wife orgasm is the ultimate criterion for you to 'win' this battle, this can be accomplished without using your organ. You can do it with your hand or even better with your mouth. She would probably love it, more. 

8. Clitoral stimulation generally gets women aroused more and brings them to orgasm than penetration. This doesn't need any penile contact, as clitoris is located outside the vagina.

9. There are other ways also if you insist on vaginal intercourse longer. You can use creams that desensitize penis, and thus increase the 'time period' (as commonly referred to in India, Pakistan). You may be able to hold ejaculation for more time. 

10. Training your mind to think about something that shocks you, makes you sad, or something holy, may do the trick when you are about to discharge. Else you can pinch yourself really hard anywhere in the body, and this will decrease your excitation level.

There are many other tricks and tips to keep your wife happy in the bed. In India, the 'Suhag Raat' or 'Shab-e-Uroosi' has been glamorised in such a manner through cheap Bollywood Hindi movies that it puts undue pressure on young couples.

Neither your wife is a ringmaster, nor you a 'circus tiger' who has to perform his best in the ring. Just be your natural self. Think yourself as adequately endowed. Have a feeling that its lovemaking, not about scoring, winning or losing. 

Things will definitely improve. But one last advice. If there is a real issue, go and consult a proper 'sexologist'. If you don't have one in your city, go to a qualified doctor--your family doctor or a good medical practitioner. But never go to the self-styled 'Gupt Rog Chikitsak' who offer 'Jinsi Amraz ka Ilaaj' or 'Mardana Kamzori' treatments using the 'Powerful capsules' advertised in newspapers.

All earlier posts on similar ailments and diseases can be read: Click here

Treating epilepsy through herbal, natural remedies

Epilepsy* is an ailment that can be cured but the patient and his/her family members need to take certain precautions.

As far as natural and herbal ways of treatment are concerned, here are a few remedies:

1. Give onion juice (around 3 ounce) daily mixed with small quantity of water in the morning. It has to be given regularly for at least 40 days.

2. If the patient is given slight 'heeng' (Asafoetida) along with lemon to chew, it will be helpful to the epileptic. The patient shouldn't immediately gobble it up, rather let it in the mouth and chew slowly.

3. Bake garlic (light broiling) for a while in oil and administer it to the person suffering from epilepsy on a regular basis. 

4. Take 60 gms 'henna' (mehndi) juice along with 250 gm milk. It cures the condition as per ayurveda.

4. A wonderful remedy in Indian ayurvedic medicinal system is to boil pomegranate leaves (100 grammes) in 500 gramme water. When just a quarter water remains, filter it and add 60 gramme 'ghee' and an equal amount of sugar. Give it to patient twice in day, in the morning and in the evening. Mostly it works.

(*In Urdu and Hindustani, it is called Mirgi)

How to stop excessive bleeding during menstruation?

A large number of women suffer from this predicament. Especially, when the menstrual cycle continues for a long period, the bleeding results in extreme weakness. In medical parlance, prolonged mesntrual cycle is termed menorrhagia.

A few home made tips to cure it and stop blood loss include:

*Make a powder of dry skin of pomegranate and take one teaspoon full of this powder with normal cold water. This is a traditional remedy for ladies facing this problem and it stops bleeding.

*Boil 20 grammes of coriander in 200 gramme water until just 50 grammes of water remains. Then strain the water, add misri [candy sugar] and drink it. This also helps in stopping the heavy loss of blood.

*Two teaspoons of coriander powder, sugar and ghee. Mix them in equal quantity and take it thrice a day.

In India and Pakistan, where women avoid going to gynaecologists and where doctors aren't as common as other countries, mahwari-related [or masik dharma] problems are a big issue.

How to cure impotence and erectile dysfunction?

In the past we have posted tips and natural ways to cure impotence. Now a few basic things which you need to know if you are suffering from impotence or weak erection.

If you have been living a sedentary life, ensure that you take a walk for at least 30minutes before dinner. Drink water, avoid alcohol and cut down on your smoking, as they have a negative impact in this situation.

Especially, you must not do excessive worrying over it, as tension and mental fatigue are a prime cause of sexual weakness. Improving your lifestyle is absolutely necessary for a change in the situation and you must Now a few natural and herbal remedies for treatment:

*Chew five bulbs of garlic in the morning and drink milk soon after. Keep this routine for the entire winter season.

*Take a mixture of onion juice and honey on a regular basis.

*Pistachio nuts and pomegranates will help you in regaining your vigour and activating sexual system.

Earlier posts on related subjects include:
1. Nightfall, nocturnal emissions [swapna dosh]
2. Impotence, Sexual weakness and Jiryan
3. Ginger for sexual weakness
4. Premature ejaculation [Surat-e-Inzal] (Urdu, Hindi)
5. Male impotence [Namardi] (Urdu, Hindi)
6. Thin watery semen [veerya or mani ka patlapan]

Treatment of gastric problems and flatulence

Jaggery

Gastric trouble is a serious ailment, as it not only keeps to uneasy but is also a cause for many other ailments and it also affects your lifestyle seriously.

Now a few tips for you:

1. Eat a little jaggery after meals. It will help in reducing gas.

2. Take radish with salt and black pepper along with food. Take this regular for two months.

3. Juice of raw cauliflower and carrots mixed together in equal quantities should be taken

4. Sprinkle salt on finely chopped ginger and take this once a day before food. Take it regularly for ten days. It reduces flatulence.

5. Boil two teaspoons of dry coriander in one glass of water and filter. Divide it in equal parts and drink this water thrice a day.

How to lose weight: The herbal, natural way to check obesity

*Mix bitter gourd juice and lime juice. Take this mixture early morning. It helps in reducing fat, quite effectively.

*Tea with mint leaves, if taken regularly, reduces fat.

*Add a lemon and some salt in 250 m warm water. Drink it in the morning empty stomach. It is most helpful in summers.

*Another age-old tried and tested way is to take a mixture of two teaspoons of honey and a lemon in a glass of warm water. Take it early morning for four months and it will have a magical effect.

*Take spinach juice with lemon. It is also a good remedy and checks weight gain.

*Black gram soaked in water should be mixed with honey and taken early morning.
*Add black salt and ajwain in butter milk. Drink it regularly.